Everyone gets Angry. It is what we do with it that makes us good or bad. Anger can go from being a good and productive outlet or expression of an emotion to negative, and agressive and dangerous emotion. We get angry as a response to a situation where we feel out of control, threatened, or will harm will come to us. The purpose of anger is to let us know that something is wrong. Once we recognize that something is is wrong we have a responsibilty to do something about it. Almost like or blood pressure once we know what makes it go up we stop doing it to bring or blood pressure down.
Doing something means getting away from the situation which is making us angry. If your in the grocery store and the person in front of you is taking for ever change lines instead of getting angrier at that person. You do not know whether that person has a handicap which prevents them from moving faster.
The most important thing about anger is not to allow it to grow and take control over you. You lose your objectivity and ability to act responsibily when anger takes control of you. Most importantly you make people frightened of you and then resolving a problem becomes almost impossible. Plus who wants to talk with you when your threathening. Calm down and everyone will talk with you.
When you feel your anger coming on there are many things you can do to promote a positive response to any situation. The most important is to find quick ways to calm down. Here are some quick whats to control your anger in order to resolve situations: (1) using humor, (2) relaxation, (3) breathing excercises. For more information on ways to control your anger go to my website at ibilofsky.wix.com/anger-management.
If you can not control your anger and need help please contact me by visiting my website at ibilofsky.wix.com/anger-management